A quick editorial cartoon about the intersection of self-pity, entitlement, rape, territoriality, misogyny and fear of women. You see it all over the place online in the form of Men’s Rights Activists (of whom there are a few reasonable non-misogynists), Men Going Their Own Way, Pick Up Artists, and dudes touting the “Red Pill”, because The Matrix is a good movie. Look any of these up if you have the stomach for it. These are extreme examples, but watered-down forms of these ideas are everywhere.
In lurking their blogs and youtube channels for a while, I’ve noticed that beyond the standard patriarchal chauvinism there is this deep fear of women - what they will do to me, how they will reject me, how they will use me, how they are changing society in a way that does not favor me, how they are making men into something I don’t like, how they are making themselves into something I don’t like, that they won’t give me what I want, and that they won’t give me what I think is rightfully mine. This goes beyond fear of feminism- this is fear of women at its purest. And that, to quote a puppet, leads to anger and hate. It’s sad.
I am a feminist. I think there’s enough ice cream to go around, but it does mean those of us with 3 scoops might have to give one or two up. Also, The Matrix is a fun movie but probably not anything you should be basing a philosophy on.
oh my god, why isn’t this handed out to fucking everyone at birth
god damn it
What people call carbonated drinks, county by county.
I was so glad when I moved from Pop Country to Soda Country, because “soda” is CORRECT.
Also I’m fascinated by the Soda Islands around Milwaukee and St. Louis.
I’m from the land of pop, and live in the land of soda. I still have no idea how anyone orders a non-Coke soda in the South.
[Image description: A photograph of a manatee, taken above water. The manatee is resting their grey head on the edge of a pool, with one flipper up as well. TEXT: “You are strong, but that doesn’t mean you have to fight alone. Please ask for help if you need it, or a hug, or a cup of tea. Or just ask for someone to be by your side.”]
[Photo credit. Read this, it’s great.]
I think a lot of people think that to be strong, you have to be completely independent and never show weakness and fight all of your battles by yourself. And that’s not true. Even the strongest people have others to lean on. Friends to hug, parents to make them dinner, and acquaintances to wish them a good day.
It’s okay to ask for help, or to ask someone to give you a big hug because you feel so much weight on your shoulders you need someone to share the load. That’s all okay. You are important, and loved.
Man, this meme icks me out so much.
Fluttershy is a sweet pony. She’s compassionate, intelligent, good with animals, loyal to her friends, humble, polite, open-minded, working on her assertiveness, and has an amazing singing voice. If she were a woman, she’d be a lovely person.
But she’s also painfully shy, submissive, and lacking in self-esteem. And every time I see Bronies saying “Fluttershy is the ideal woman” or “Fluttershy would be the perfect girlfriend,” I worry that’s what they’re really attracted to.
If it’s a “I want to nurture her and bring her out of her shell” thing, that’s a little paternalistic, but not so bad. Sometimes, though, I get the feeling it’s more of a “finally, a woman who won’t ask for anything or disagree with anything” thing. And that’s goddamn gross.
What Cliff said.
If you find yourself dreading interaction with someone, you probably don’t like them.
Even if you can think of all kinds of reasons why they are objectively likeable.
Even if you think they’re a good person.
Even if you used to enjoy their company.
Even if your friends like to hang out with…
A friend’s teenage daughter is currently trying to get safely out of an abusive, non-romantic relationship, and this has gotten me thinking.
We tell our kids what not to put up with from romantic partners; from parents; from older relatives.
We don’t so much tell them…
I have discovered an excellent tool for alleviating social awkwardness: a sewing kit and fabric scraps! (Small knitting projects, embroidery hoops, and other portable non-messy crafts work just as well.)
This is good because:
a) If I go to a party with no solo activity to distract me, I will…
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